The Dating Revolving Door

You see one of your friends with it. You want one for yourself. You log into your account, do a quick search and in a few minutes you find exactly what you’re looking for. A few more seconds, a few more button clicks, and you get the alert notifying you that your package is on the way. You barely have time to log out of the site before you hear a knock on the door. You rush to the door and there it is: The item that you just ordered as already been delivered. You rip open the package and try it on. That is when your huge smile on your face turns into a frown. It looks like what you ordered, however it doesn’t fit on you like it did your friend. But how could it be? It looked great on your friend but how did you get this bootleg version of what you wanted instead?


This scenario happens more and more in today’s microwave society. We see the power couple du jour and want to have what they have. What we don’t see is the hard work that they put into make their relationship work. We have become a people of swipe right and speed dating and don’t understand that it takes a lot of time, energy, tears, compassion, and understanding to make a real go at a serious and meaningful relationship. Dating is getting harder and harder today. We are influenced by what we see, what we hear, and what we were taught. This dangerous dynamic means that if and when two people actually get to the point of going on a first date, the odds are great that there won’t be a second one. Too many men think that it’s a sign of weakness to plan a date, and too many women think that the man should be happy with her just being there. You get what you give and if you want to be in a relationship, you have to be open to the steps of getting into one. You have to be open to learning about the other person and then be open and honest so that they can learn you.

Exclusive love is elusive. That doesn’t mean it can’t be found. Sometimes it’s right in front of you. Open your eyes, open your heart, and it very well might be right there. Don’t be afraid to say what you want, but make sure you know what you want. Its not easy to put yourself out there. Its even harder to find new and different people to go out with. The pool of desirable people that are both attractive and can hold your attention seems to be getting more and more shallow with each passing day. Even with this being the case, you have to keep diving in. But keep in mind, that even as you slosh through the dating pool, you have to make sure that you know yourself with no reservations. Make sure that you are both attractive and intelligent for someone else. You cant ask for something that you yourself cannot give.

Posted: Nov 6, 2018, 12:52 am

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